When it comes to babies, it’s not always love at first sight, and that is really okay. Parents often pressurise themselves to feel as strongly as they believe they should right from the get-go. Understanding your child, and their personality takes time, and similarly the bond will develop and keep getting stronger. Post-delivery, we are dealing with stress, exhaustion, hormonal changes and a host of other physical changes that we are just starting to get a grasp on, try not to pressurize yourself even more.
|My loves (photo credit: Ruchita Jain photography)|
10 ways to bond with your younger baby:
1. Nurse: for as long as you are able to. Nursing is a lot more of a commitment when you have a toddler or an elder child impatiently waiting for you to be done. However, the most dedicated time I was able to give my daughter was while I was feeding her. She was a cluster feeder who would need to be attached up to 8/9 hours a day! And in hindsight, it was her way of getting her fill of me. Because, I haven't been able to sit down in the day, since she stopped nursing, I'm so caught up juggling the two, what they want to do and my work commitments.
2. Take them along: My daughter has spent her first year doing my son's carpool pick up and drop off (something I didn't do before I had two but now I do it as a way to bond with both of them in the mornings), going to several 3rd and 4th birthdays, play dates, play areas and garden time - kind of like a mini 3 year old who you have to carry everywhere (and yes, initially be comfortable nursing or giving a bottle of pumped milk anywhere). And as a result, I find that she's grown up faster - bitter sweet but great too because at 16 months she's talking in full sentences, singing entire songs, counting till 10... all of which she has learned from her brother.
3. Make them part of more than the conversation: I would find that most of my conversations would still revolve around my son, just because he did more, said more and I had to plan more things for him. However, make your little one a part of it too - try to remember that she didn't just roll over - she actually rolled over!! (and you were likely extremely excited about this the first time around).
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